Meet Your Intimate Self

Years ago, I wrote a course about empowering your sexuality. But I never released it.

I’ve realized that it was just the start of something bigger. That course, was the beginning of a bigger body of work that I have been craving to continue. The questions surrounding sexuality and how we individually relate to it have surrounded me for much of my life. In many ways, I’ve realized that there were many tiny bits of life that slowly pushed me towards work in this field. But I don't think I was ever meant for it in a simple way.

I’ve never fit in the sexuality world, in the way our social constructs assume and judge that I would. I’ve always been an outlier and my perspective, was one that dug deeper than most.

I spent so much of my life feeling sheltered from sexuality, confused by it, curious about it, ashamed of it, exploring it in a variety of ways and eventually devoted to understanding it in a deeper way. In the way that felt true for me.

My work in the material aspects of the sex industry taught me about the superficial construct that we are exposed to. But my yearning for more depth pushed me to take what I learned and create something that would nurture the souls of those who also yearned for something deeper.

Few of us, were lucky enough to grow up in a sex positive environment. Most of us are more familiar with the neutral or negative sex messaging. I fell in the later, but because of that I know what it is like to weed through sexuality when what you were taught and what your soul is trying to reach towards seem to collide. I’ve been through my own journey of ups and downs in learning about my sexuality. I now think of it as real world research that takes me beyond my formal education and helps me be good at supporting others.

My journey brought me to a place where the deep intimacy and emotional experiences are what draw me in. I’m curious about the spirituality, philosophy and deeper understand of sexuality in our lives.

Sexuality is a life force, but how do we take something with so much taboo and mixed messaging and turn it into a pillar that helps guide our life?

How do we work our way out of negative or neutral sexuality messages and turn it into something positive?

How do we actually discover us in sexuality and know ourselves intimately?

Since I originally wrote that course, years ago I have grown immensely and so has my work. The way I understand this conversation has also evolved. What was once a conversation about the superficial aspects of sexuality, has grown into a more aligned and deeper conversation. One that might challenge your existence and challenge what you know. It is about digging deeper into yourself and discovering the truth of where this life force energy lives within you.

Sexuality is not something we empower within ourselves in isolation. We can’t solely decide to work on expanding our sexual lives. It is connected to everything. The way we live in our bodies. How we take care of ourselves, physically, emotionally, and mentally. The way we relate to shame and past experiences. Our relationship with our sexual history, upbringing, trauma and messaging. The way we trust ourselves and others. How we love, connect and communicate. The way we feel safe, desired, honest, and present.

Sexuality is not separate from other parts of your life. It is woven through everything. Because it is an energy source. One that can be kept dull and grey or one that we can tap into and harness for more color. We can learn to meet our intimate self in a way that empowers us to live a richer life.

The body of work, that you will find within The Intimate Self is not here to tell you who to become or to tell you the best way to be sexual. It is not here to make you more sexual, kinky or vanilla, more adventurous, more desirable, or more open than you actually feel. It is here to help you walk into a more honest relationship with your intimate self. To discover what that is and embrace it for yourself and your individuality.

Your intimate self includes your body, your pleasure, desires, boundaries, history, your past and present, your curiosities and fears, your relationships, your patterns, and the parts of you that may have learned to hide. Because not one thing about our intimate self or our sexuality stands alone. It’s all a beautiful life force, like a gold thread, strewn through each part of you.

This is not about being better at sex, though when you get in touch with your intimate self and the truth of your sexuality, your sex life certainly benefits. But I believe we all deserve even more than that.

I don’t just want to talk about the best vibrators and sex positions. I want to help you be more truthful with yourself. To build your confidence, self-trust, self-worth, and sexual safety. So that, then the material parts of sexuality live and breath within your truth. Then they come from you.

As you move through this on-going body of work, I want you to remember that your sexuality does not have to look like anyone else’s. Your pleasure does not need to be impressive or performative to be real. How you experience your pleasure or sexuality doesn’t have to be like anyone else in order to be valid. Your desire matters because it is yours. We are all worthy of intimacy and deep connection.

You are allowed to be who you are within your Intimate Self.

Love,

Megan