Ep. 11 How to Navigate Different Sex Drives in a Relationship

In this episode, I’m answering two of the most common questions I get asked—what is sex, does it always have to be penetrative, and how to navigate a relationship where sex drives are different. These questions come up all the time, and they often point to deeper themes: how we define pleasure, how our early sex education shaped our beliefs, and what it really means to build a happy sex life that fits you.

I share my thoughts on expanding our definition of sex beyond penetration, navigating differences in desire with care, and why communication, creativity, and compassion are essential when you’re trying to stay connected in this part of your relationship. Whether you’re the one with the higher or lower drive, this is a conversation about what it means to desire, and to stay curious about your partner, and yourself.

 

Themes & Takeaways:

  • Does sex always have to mean penetration?

  • Why different sex drives are normal, not a red flag

  • How to talk about desire with understanding instead of shame or blame

  • Discovering creative ways to be intimate

  • Redefining sex for you

 

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